Nice partner..I would have smacked you upside the head...NEVER compromise the belay .If stress in trad climbing is coming from the belay, it's time to beef up the belay.
read climbing anchor, and more climbing anchors. There is anchor with two nuts and a back up, which is enough for a safe anchor, but still scary the first time. My partners always had redundancy in there anchor. They were stress, but not over stress. Just enough to understand what is good and what is dangerous.
You told people bad advice in trad as I never compromise the belay, maybe it is time to concentrate on good habit in sport
why don't you just avoid what I am writing?
I have plenty of people who want to talk about trad.